Real Women Exist And Take Up Space, Even If You Don’t Like It

Crew of the Lusty WenchLook, I know exactly where the “Real Women Have Curves!” thing comes from. I do. I look at the advertising around me and see no one who looks like me. I look at hate-filled rants about OMG FATTIES! and how any woman who isn’t built as a perfect size 4 is ALL WRONG AND BAD and feel nothing but despair. I get it all, in the face, just as much as every woman in the Western World does.

But if “real women have curves”, that makes far too many of my friends Not Real Women. That makes arabidmouse not a real woman because she’s naturally very slender and is a size 0. That makes my beautiful friend Raven with her boyish hips and her three kids not a real woman. That makes the majority of the women in this photoshoot not real women.

You know, fuck that noise

New Mantra: Real Women Have Bodies.

Those bodies are of different shapes and sizes and colours. Some of them you will find more attractive than others. That’s fine. I want to see advertising that reflects me, my friends, that beauty and attractiveness are subjective, and all of those other things. Real women have bodies. Hating on women who either easily fit into advertising’s definition of attractiveness or have to harm themselves to do so helps no one. Yes, some of the women in my life have eating disorders, and a lot of that is caused by very high pressure to be thin… and yet, they are still real women.

Real women have bodies. Big ones, small ones, curvy ones, flat ones, bodies. There is so much hate every day thrown at women’s bodies that I just can’t sit back and listen when someone spouts out that real women have curves.

Real women have bodies.

4 Responses to “Real Women Exist And Take Up Space, Even If You Don’t Like It”

  1. liz Says:

    Yes!

  2. Daughter of the Ring of Fire » Blog Archive » Real Women Have Bodies Says:

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  3. belledame222 Says:

    “Real Women Have Bodies”

    I like that.

  4. Dollface Says:

    I love this new phrase! I’m sick of the media’s idea of “ideal beauty” — slim, youthful. I personally am guilty of body bashing. There are days I can’t look in mirrors, and other days I feel at home in my body. I just wish it was more of the latter!

    Anyway, great post.

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